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There are many people who have been or are being bullied. We will look at the effects of bullying and suggestions of how to cope. Some suggested websites to visit. * Staying safe online - Childnet * A charity commited to the emotional well being & mental health of young people -Young Minds * Have a look at our help page for further websites / organisations that are there to help. |
Are you being bullied? I will share my story and look at the effects of bullying, as well as looking at the common feelings associated with the effects of bullying. We will also share some suggestions of how to cope if you are being bullied. My Story
As I look back at the emotional and physical scars I carried,
I can finally see that it wasn't my fault. I wish that I had been able to find the words to tell someone when it first began.
If only I had had the help and direction I needed to look at the situation with different eyes, instead of punishing myself for the bullies reaction.
After speaking to many people who have been or are in a similar situation, these thoughts can make the situation even worse, as you are not only dealing with the bullying, but also with what you think of yourself too. These are the thoughts that went round and round in my head-
As the bullying got worse, so did my body language. My posture went from looking up at the sky to finding the ground easier to look at. I rarely looked anyone in the eye in an attempt to survive, it is natural to try and protect yourself hoping not to draw unwanted attention. I found the comfort of my duvet an appealing place to stay, ending up becoming a school phobic. If only I had told someone that I trusted… When I eventually did tell someone, I received the support that I needed to heal and move on. If you are being bullied - please tell someone you trust.
 If you tell someone you trust then you don't need to deal with it alone anymore. The situation can change.
No one will think you are weak for telling them.
You don't need to suffer in silence.
Even if the first person you tell doesn't listen or understand, it is still important that you try again with someone else. You could ask a friend or relative to go with you to tell an adult that could help.
Many, many people have been / are in a similar situation.
This is one of the main reasons why I wrote -
'Matty-boy and the Secret Pigeon Racket'.
It's a story of friendship, that covers bullying, family and loss with a little adventure along the way.
The underlying theme is to encourage those who are being bullied - to tell someone they trust, but can also be seen as a fun children's story.
Suggestions: Activities and friendship Friendship can be one of the most amazing things that we can experience in life. We can make friends by being a good friend to someone. If friendship is something that you
Why not consider some new things to try and find out what you would enjoy and make some new friends, through a new activity! I considered giving up on the many things that I enjoyed doing when I was being bullied, but I carried on with a couple of the groups I belonged to and it made such a difference, to make sure I had time to have some fun.
This could be art and crafts, writing, dramatic arts such as dancing, music and acting... there are many clubs / groups that you could join and meet people with similar interests.
You could join a club and volunteer your time in helping a community inititative, gardening, Birdwatching ...
You could help fundraise for a charity, help a community project...
You could join your local sports club and / or the gym... Things to remember:
If you want to join a club or try something new, always make sure that your family know where you are. If you join a social community online, take care in sharing your personal information. Do not give out your name, address, telephone number or other key information such as where you go to school. If you are affected by bullying, find someone you trust to share with and gain the help you need, you don't need to deal with it alone. If you know someone who is being bullied, be a friend and help them to find a safe adult to talk about it with.
You are special and deserve to be treated with respect.
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struggle with due to being bullied, sometimes we may feel it's easier to stay away from people, to give up on the activities that we once enjoyed.